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November 25, 2020
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Janet Escobar

The Evolution of Getting out of a Rut

Choose to do things that you used to love or discover new things! Make self-care a daily priority by ensuring that you are giving your mind, body, and spirit what it needs and what it has been missing

Let’s be honest, life hands us a lot of struggles, challenges, and heartaches that could easily lead to us to slowly falling into a state of depression, frustration, resentment, and the “rut” stage.

I would like to think about the steps of getting out of a rut as the evolution period of the butterfly. I am not necessarily saying that the butterfly experiences life troubles. However, the butterfly does go through stages in their life span that will result in the beautiful transformation that the butterfly encounters as it emerges from the cocoon. I would like to compare the cocoon as the “rut” stage, and the butterfly is who we are once we work out way out of it. So, let’s work our way out of it!

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Let’s be honest, life hands us a lot of struggles, challenges, and heartaches that could easily lead to us to slowly falling into a state of depression, frustration, resentment, and the “rut” stage.

I would like to think about the steps of getting out of a rut as the evolution period of the butterfly. I am not necessarily saying that the butterfly experiences life troubles. However, the butterfly does go through stages in their life span that will result in the beautiful transformation that the butterfly encounters as it emerges from the cocoon. I would like to compare the cocoon as the “rut” stage, and the butterfly is who we are once we work out way out of it. So, let’s work our way out of it!

Step No. 1-Acceptance

One of the first steps in pulling yourself out of a “rut” begins with not making yourself feel guilty for the space that you are in. Whatever you are feeling, whatever it is you are battling with or struggling with, please digress from beating yourself up for what is happening around you. Find solace in knowing you are not the only person who has ever felt this way.

Accept that what is happening to you is part of the human experience. Without the bad days, we wouldn’t appreciate the good days as much. By growing through these tough times, you will also grow in your wisdom and knowledge.

Step No. 2-Identify the Cause

The next step includes identifying the event that happened that influenced the “rut” stage. Identify whatever is happening in your life as something that is either within or outside of your control. If it is something within your control, then there could be something that can be done to fix the situation or make it better. If it something that is outside of your control, then you will have to release some of the stress that it is causing. Identifying your situation and releasing the need and want to be in control, or allowing the situation to control you will lead to your next step.

Step No.3 -Release

Once you identify the cause and begin to accept where you are, it is time to let go. Let go of what happened in the past and let go of what is currently happening. Letting go does not mean you will automatically forget or feel completely better the next day or the following. However, deciding to set yourself free of being captive and controlled by these unwelcomed feelings will give you a sense of release. Letting go/separating yourself takes time, but you will begin to feel better one day at a time.

Step No. 4-Choose Yourself

After you began the process of letting go, start to choose yourself again. Choose to do things that you used to love or discover new things! Make self-care a daily priority by ensuring that you are giving your mind, body, and spirit what it needs and what it has been missing. This step is all about making yourself feel whole again. It should be all about you. Do something that brings you joy and puts a smile on your face. Do something that you always wanted to, and maybe were too afraid to do. Using your experience as fuel for change will lead to the evolution of a new perspective and a fresh start of a new version of yourself.

Step No. 5-Embrace the New You

The final step is embracing the better version of yourself! Reflecting on who you have become as a result of your difficult time is an important part of your story and journey. It includes acknowledging the fact that you did not allow yourself to be consumed by the stages of the rut that tried to keep you down. You chose that it was time for a change, and you made the change happen! And here you are – better than ever!

There will always be new lessons to learn. There will always be new layers of ourselves to outgrow. Your period of lowness can be used as a story for someone else who will need to it. You can be the light at the end of the tunnel for someone. Your story can be the empowering and reassurance that will result in someone fighting through feelings of the “rut”. It all begins with you.


Article written by Kristen Richardson and edited by Janet Escobar.

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