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November 25, 2020
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Janet Escobar

Eliminating Expectations to Live a Happier Life

Additionally, we can often find ourselves being down or depressed if we don’t see the result that we anticipated because of our high expectations. We need to take a step back and realize that this is all built up in our heads to practice non-attachment.

The vast majority of us have expectations every day. Whether it’s anticipating something is going to work out a certain way, or hoping an opportunity works out in our favor or meets our standards. These expectations could be surrounding dating, jobs, vacations, or interviews. Whatever it is, expectations often lead to disappointment because of our attachment to the result. We spend all this time overthinking before they happen instead of merely living in the moment and allowing things to come as they will.

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The vast majority of us have expectations every day. Whether it’s anticipating something is going to work out a certain way, or hoping an opportunity works out in our favor or meets our standards. These expectations could be surrounding dating, jobs, vacations, or interviews. Whatever it is, expectations often lead to disappointment because of our attachment to the result. We spend all this time overthinking before they happen instead of merely living in the moment and allowing things to come as they will.

Because we are hyping up and anticipating a result, goal, or person, it is ultimately not fair to ourselves because we won’t truly be in the moment when that thing arises or when you're with that person. But it is also not fair to the opportunity at hand or that person you are with because you are really undermining their value and the potential ahead in general if you are working something up in your head.

Additionally, we can often find ourselves being down or depressed if we don’t see the result that we anticipated because of our high expectations. We need to take a step back and realize that this is all built up in our heads to practice non-attachment.

Take a moment to think about the last time you had an expectation for something to happen or for someone to act a certain way. Think about this for a moment and notice how you felt after when it didn’t come to fruition, or this person turned out to be different than what you expected. So once you’ve thought of that, try to replay the entire scenario, but this time if you had no expectations and no preconceived ideas of what may happen. Big difference, right?

The reason we have expectations is often because we are anticipating the result, in the hopes that it will make us feel a certain way. When we picture ourselves getting that promotion, having a perfect date, or whatever it is, we seek to feel a certain way based on things going our way and working out for us. Unfortunately, the way we want things to turn out is not always up to us. It is not an easy task to eliminate or reduce expectations that we have daily. However, we will likely be much happier and live in the moment throughout our life if we try to reduce our expectations overall.

The next time you find yourself hoping something goes a certain way or wanting someone to do or act a way you’d prefer, take a moment to realize the disservice you are doing to yourself and that other person or opportunity. Instead, try to go into situations with an open mind and practice being non-attached to the outcome. When we are non-attached to the result, we can truly be present and accept opportunities that become available to us!


Article written by Bridget and edited by Janet Escobar.

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