Let’s talk about rejection. Unfortunately, rejection is a part of life, and it happens to every single one of us. However, there is so much we can learn from rejection. The way we show up when rejection arises says so much about our character, self-esteem, and ability to be resilient in life and bounce back! There is so much good that can come out of rejection!
Who is this pep talk for?
This pep talk around rejection is for anyone who has recently felt or been rejected. Most of us do face rejection every day, and we might not even know it because some of the things we are being ‘rejected’ by may not matter that much to us at the moment. These could be minimal things or aspects in your life that do not cause you to feel any emotional setback.
However, we all notice rejection when it is something really important to us. This is typically the type of rejection that hurts and can make us feel burnt by another person. Some examples of these more large scale moments are relationships, interviews, promotions, or any big picture, life event. These are the rejections that we can all recall and often remember for years to come.
However, you can find comfort in knowing that every single person on the planet faces rejection. It is an inevitable part of life and the human experience. We all have had or will have that big ‘ah-ha’ moment where we experience the raw feeling of rejection.
What to do after being rejected?
The first thing to do after experiencing rejection is taking time to process. Take some time on your own to sit and truly feel your emotions. Don’t feel the need to go back to life as usual right away. Take a day or two to be with yourself. Allow the feelings surrounding the rejection to arise. Our emotions are a beautiful thing, and we should not suppress them. To move on both consciously and subconsciously from rejection, we must allow ourselves to acknowledge our raw emotions at the moment.
Once you have embodied and owned your emotions on your own, feel free to take a moment to journal about your experience or talk to close friends and family about what you are going through. Vocalizing what is going on surrounding your rejection will shed light on the situation to help you begin to heal.
Additionally, start to look around at all that you do currently have and realize this one moment of rejection does not define you. Often, rejection may be a blessing in disguise. This can be hard to believe, especially if your wounds are still fresh from the rejection. However, the Universe could be sending you a message that this one thing or person was not meant for you.
For you to pursue the path you were meant to follow on earth, you could not have that thing you wanted, whether it was the job, the promotion, or the romantic partner. That was not your path. Know that something better is coming along the way and that this is all happening for a bigger purpose.
You may have to sit in this moment of feeling low to realize what good will come to you in the future. If we do not go through difficult times, then we cannot appreciate all of the good that is coming our way and that we already do have! Take a moment to realize that there is so much light and opportunity on the horizon. This rejection did happen for a reason!
How do I move through rejection?
Know that your current emotions are only temporary. Feelings and situations are continually changing. Your negative emotions will subside, and you will not feel the pain of rejection forever. Again, make sure to observe your feelings to move through them.
Try and see what you can learn from this experience. Maybe you discovered something you like or don't like in your current job or relationship or what you are going to focus on moving forward. Look for the silver lining that the Universe may be trying to teach you surrounding this rejection.
Finally, stop making this rejection appear to be all about you in your head. Don’t worry, we all do this! We take rejection so personally and think that it had everything to do with us, when often it may have had very little to do with us at all.
Most of the time, rejection occurs due to something external to us and has nothing to do with you. It can be something solely going on with the other person, such as your partner, boss, or the hiring manager. This may be hard to believe, especially if you are feeling the pain of rejection, currently. Know it is likely not about you, though.
Hang in there! There is light at the end of the rejection tunnel. Stay strong and keep moving through it. Find comfort in knowing you are not alone and that we all experience rejection many times throughout our life. This experience happened for a reason to guide you to the Universal path you are meant to follow!