Turning Back The Clock
The other night I was texting a friend of mine and we were bantering back and forth to pass the time. There was one joke though, a pun really, that I made and regretted immediately after tapping the send button on my phone because I quickly thought of a smarter comeback. But it was too late, the moment was over and the topic was changed. This isn’t the first time this has happened to me, and I know it won’t be the last. Because let’s face it, it happens to all of us.
Of course, it’s not the end of the world. But for some strange reason, that silly moment caused me to reflect on my life as a whole. I realize that there’s always going to be moments in our lives where we’ll fall short. There will be times when we’ll look back and think, I know I could have done better. And this is what scares me sometimes, the idea that I might get so caught up with the routine of life and then decades from today I’ll look back at what I’ve accomplished with my time, and I’ll be met with disappointment. Like a shadow, I’ll have navigated through life from the sidelines and made no positive impact on the world.
I think this feeling becomes extra prominent for people at the end of the year, when a lot of us look back at our last year’s resolutions just to realize that those fizzled away like that last sip of champagne. We look back at the year and wonder: how did it go by so fast? We agonize and dissect the “what –s” and the “how-s” and “why-s” of now accomplishing our goals.
At first, I thought the worst part of all would be that it’d be impossible to turn back the clock and make things better. However, when I thought about this further I realized that that’s actually the best part of all! Not having the opportunity to go back in time to fix things gives us the right kind of pressure that we need to be successful and to live life to the fullest. If we let it, this can inspire us to make the necessary changes to shape our lives accordingly. And decades from now we can look back and think, I gave my all and I lived the best life possible.
Here’s a 4 step reinvention process that I found floating about the Internet and had to share!
1. Make a list of the things that make you happy.
2. Make a list of things you do every day.
3. Compare the lists.
4. Adjust accordingly.
Make a list of things that make you happy, today and right now with all the surrounding circumstances and issues that you might face. You see as humans are so often trained to fix the issues and solve the problems that our mind focuses on everything that is not working quite naturally. However, it is not a secret that you focusing on the positives elevates your vibration, your mindset, your juju and forces you into a state of gratitude, which is way more productive for your life and business. Plus, it’s a great way to give yourself a literal pat on the back for all the great things surrounding you. After all, you are the one attracting that happiness!
Make a list of things you do every day, then sort them between activity vs. productivity, growth vs. stagnation, as not all things you do are equal. These “habits” are solely responsible for your lifestyle and your re-invention, after all your new self needs to be able to see what needs to be eliminated, expanded upon or left in place. Every seemingly insignificant thing you do every day whether moves you closer or deters you from your goal. Every single time. Yes, are all good at pretending that it’s not the case: “what’s another 5 minutes on Facebook” or “let me just take another 10 min break and Google what to wear for the NYE party”, but at all times we move in a certain direction. We are productive or we are wondering – there’s no in between. I tell my clients all the time, “Don’t half-do it: take a break and rest or work. Multi-tasking is a lie!”
Compare your lists and adjust to align with your most authentic place of happy! You see we often think that we don't have enough time to do things we love. Well, numbers don’t lie! There are 168 hours in a week. You spend roughly 40 of them working, 56 sleeping, 35 showering, eating travelling and that leave you with 37 hours of “not enough time” for doing things you love, help you grow, learning new things, and making you the best version of you. Unless you are happy, the 40 hours you spend working are nothing but suffering and 56 hours you are sleeping are turning into stress-filled mind labyrinth. So those 2 lists are there to give you clarity and show you what needs to be changed today. Because while everyone else is talking about “turning back the clock”, you know that the clock keeps ticking!