Make 2018 The Year Of Love And Action


As a self-professed late bloomer, I’ve spent hundreds of hours and thousands of minutes analyzing what I am not and what I can’t do. I have justified every fear and reasoned away the “why nots” of my life so I didn’t have to deal with the pressure required to bring a dream or idea into existence and then completion. I have literally talked myself out of why I am not the woman for the job or why I can’t see a really cool idea through just because someone, somewhere is already doing it.  

Back in the summer I picked up Emily Gilbert’s book Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear. First of all, I cried! I cried because Gilbert articulated for me what was happening in my mind when it came to my creative processes.  She helped me to understand how fluid our creativity and dreams are and that when we don’t cultivate our creative endeavors, they will literally move to someone else!  

Secondly, she is so genuine and gentle in how she encourages and inspires me to trust myself and the universe to just start. Whatever the endeavor, I should just start where I am, with what I have. To start is an act of self-love. Hear me sis when I say this: There will never be a perfect time to begin the work on a dream, idea, business or whatever. When we are fearful of an outcome, we often give ourselves an out by waiting for this or that to be perfect. It will never be perfect and you won’t feel or be fully ready, so you might as well start anyway. Just by taking action, you are showing yourself that you are worthy of what you dream of. It is a pure act of love when you take a risk in pursuit of what’s good for your life. I have learned that when I show myself love and kindness, I vibrate at a higher level and those vibrations can be felt all around me.  It’s like throwing a pebble into a pond and watching the ripples spread out.

I truly believe that no one person was born just to exist.  We are born to live and to thrive. We were born to leave our marks because they become guideposts for the next person on their journey.  This is why I can talk about how I used to tear other women down because I saw in them what I couldn’t see in myself. I hated that about myself. It wasn’t until my mom shared with me how she got tired of trying to be a people pleaser and getting nothing but coldness in return.  She said, “I decided that I’m going to do Kim no matter what!  People don’t like me because I do for me what they too scared to do for themselves!” That’s when it hit me. I hate on the next woman for doing what I won’t for myself.  Now that’s some truth for you!  Being in a relationship long after it has expired, living my life according to other people’s expectations, and being a people pleaser are all situations I have lived through and share so that I can help another sister along the way.

As 2017 comes to a close, let 2018 be the year that you love yourself more and take action towards whatever is good for you. When you get up in the morning, make your bed. Wink at yourself in the mirror, try a new lipstick, spruce up that resume’ and apply for the job, call and make amends, forgive yourself for whatever you didn’t see through in 2017, start a new tradition, read more-just start somewhere!

I wish you more love, more peace, and great joy in 2018!